Western & Chinese New Year Resolutions: Want vs Needs

Chinese New Year For Breast CancerBY: Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos, Intuitive Life Coach, survived three breast cancers, wrote SURVIVING CANCERLAND:

Out with the snake and in with the horse. Western New Year Resolutions and Chinese New Year Celebrations go together like peanut and butter. They herald in changes filled with hope for the world and all its inhabitants. Our New Year resolutions help us focus on personal improvements while the Chinese New Year gives us insight into animal personality types that are reflected in world events, improvements and people.

According to the Chinese calendar, 2014 is Year of the Horse and it will arrive on February 4, 2014 in China Standard Time, January 31st, on Western calendars. Chinese New Year is also called Spring Festival and Lunar New Year. Legend has it that in ancient times, Buddha asked all the animals to meet him on Chinese New Year. Twelve came, and Buddha named a year after each one. He announced that the people born in each animal’s year would have some of that animal’s personality.

The horse birth years are 1930, 1942, 1954, 1966, 1978, and 2002. If you, or someone you love, were born in horse years the personality traits you display are those of being cheerful, skillful with money, perceptive, witty, talented and good with your hands.

2013 was a year of the snake and a challenging time for many of us. Fortunately, the year of the Green Wood Horse promises to be better because the Green Wooden Horse is a symbol of spring and renewed life.

As a friend and I were having coffee at a café the discussion of New Year Resolutions and the difference between need and want was discussed.

“Kathy, what’s your New Year’s resolution?” the friend asked, “Mine is to give up sugar.” she continued, while shaking two packets of sugar substitute into her coffee. “I’m starting tomorrow.”

“Not to give up anything, and to put myself first,” I answered. “Then I’ll refocus on the difference between want and need in my life.”

My friend stopped stirring her coffee, peered over her sunglasses at me, and asked, “What do you mean by that?”  

The concept of care-giver first, and the difference between want and need can seem alien. I learned about these during radiation therapy ten years ago while battling breast cancer. I still see the side effects of emotional emptiness and burn-out in women who are unaware of self-care concepts.

Women are natural care-givers. Many give unconsciously and unconditionally until there is nothing left to give. Consequently, their emotional-well runs dry. Lately, I’ve see an alarming pattern in my friends during these uncertain economic times. Part of the problem is not distinguishing between wants and needs. Families have many wants, and the care-giver tries to meet them as though they are needs; a terrible burden to carry. Women become burned out from giving so much of themselves to those who want more than is available. When there is nothing left to give, the result is medication, and psychotherapy to fill the void, and dull the feeling of failure.

In part 2 of this blog posted next week, we will discuss the new shift into consciousness and self-awareness and what it means to you.
BIO: KathlKathleen O’Keefe-Kanavoseen O’Keefe-Kanavos, Intuitive Life Coach, survived three breast cancers, wrote SURVIVING CANCERLAND: Intuitive Aspects of Healing (Cypress House, Jan 2014) http://tinyurl.com/p7cjfxa websites: http://www.survivingcancerland.com & Access Your Inner Guide, Hosts Living Well Talk Radio, Cancer Q&A columnist- CapeWomenOnlineMagazine, Dream Queen columnist-Wellness Woman 40 & Beyond,Blogger for BreastCancerYoga.com, YourDreamIntrepretation.com, WakeUpWomen, PATHEOS; R.A. BLOCH Cancer Foundation Hotline Counselor. Represented by Steve Allen Media



By Laura Sposato-Record

MagninesiumIf you are one of the many women going through chemotherapy, you know the anxiety of waiting for your bloodwork results prior to receiving a treatment. If your chemotherapy protocol contains a platin drug, your oncologist is looking at your hemoglobin and red blood cell counts as well as other blood levels.  If these are too low, your treatment may be delayed. One factor that needs to be addressed is your magnesium level. Low levels are often a result of particular IV drugs that can literally burn out your red blood cell system.

After my third treatment, my doctor called to tell me she wanted me to take a magnesium supplement of 1000 mg. daily.  The RDA for healthy adult women is 320 mg. My level was dipping below normal and she wanted to make sure that we took care of it before it impacted on my treatment and my health in general. Magnesium is an extremely important mineral that performs over 300 jobs a day.


  • -Gives rigidity AND flexibility to your bones (more important than Calcium in many      cases)
  • -Increases bioavailability of calcium
  • -Regulates and normalizes blood pressure
  • -Prevents and reverses kidney stone formation
  • -Promotes restful sleep
  • -Helps prevent congestive heart failure
  • -Eases muscle cramps and spasms
  • -Lowers serum cholesterol levels and triglycerides
  • -Decreases insulin resistance
  • -Can prevent arteriosclerosis and stroke
  • -End cluster and migraine headaches
  • -Enhances circulation
  • -Relieves fibromyalgia and chronic pain
  • -Treats asthma and emphysema
  • -Helps make proteins
  • -Encourages proper elimination
  • -Prevents osteoporosis
  • -Proper Vitamin D absorption
  • -protection from radiation
  • -To aid weight loss
  • -Lessen or remove ADD or ADHD in children
  • -Aids in proper carbohydrate digestion
  • – Emerging evidence is showing a preventative role in many cancers

I discovered that 97% of the population is magnesium deficient and levels are rarely tested during routine exams.  Only 3% of your magnesium  is in the bloodstream; the remaining is in the bones, muscles, and joints. There are many reasons for this phenomenon, one of which is soil depletion of trace minerals due to poor farming practices.  Which foods are high in magnesium?  The list below includes food that is high in magnesium and contains calcium and potassium levels as well.  Nutrition is a symphony and collaboration of biological synergy. Supplements can help, but food is the real provider of nutrition.


Beans, black.                                                              1 cup                             120

Broccoli, raw                                                               1 cup                             22

Halibut                                                                          1/2 fillet                      170

Nuts, peanuts                                                              1 oz                               64

Okra, frozen                                                                 1 cup                             94

Oysters                                                                          3 oz                               49

Plantain, raw                                                               1 medium                     66

Rockfish                                                                        1 fillet                            51

Scallop                                                                           6 large                           55

Seeds, pumpkin and squash                                    1 oz (142 seeds)           151

Soy milk                                                                         1 cup                               47

Spinach, cooked                                                          1 cup                               157

Tofu                                                                                 1/4 block                       37

Whole grain cereal, ready-to-eat                          3/4 cup                           24

Whole grain cereal, cooked                                     1 cup                               56

Whole wheat bread                                                     1 slice                             24

USDA Nutrient Database for Standard References, Release 15 for Magnesium, Mg (mg)

An additional method of increasing the level of magnesium is through transdermaI application.  I purchased a bottle of magnesium gel at my local pharmacy that is rubbed into the skin.  Transdermal absorption is powerful and can impact on the level of magnesium not only in the blood but the muscles, bones, and nerves as well.  Super athletes will tell you that their trainers often use this gel as part of a post massage therapy for muscles suffering from magnesium loss.

Of course it is important for you to discuss this with your doctor or oncologist before focusing on one specific nutrient but it cannot hurt to inquire.  My oncologist also included an infusion of magnesium during the treatment to help boost levels.

Welcome The Possibilities

Laura at Selby Gardens Sarasota Florida

Laura at Selby Gardens Sarasota Florida

By Laura Sposato-Record

Most of us are familiar with the quote, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” Its source is unknown but the meaning is clear. My lessons often come from the pages of books that literally jump off the shelf or someone has given me in a time of need. I own a library of books that have helped me evolve and ascend – the message was intended for me at the precise time and space. So it was with Ask and it is Given Learning to Manifest Your Desires, by Esther and Jerry Hicks. A good friend gave me the book after my second diagnosis of cancer almost six years ago.

For anyone not familiar with the authors, Abraham speaks messages of spirit and wisdom through Esther. During my treatment for breast cancer, this book became my best friend. I journaled every morning, reading passages, creating my own personal affirmations. Abraham spoke to me and I began to listen intently. I knew this journey had to be from a place of peace, harmony, and gratitude.
How would I get there?

You experience immediate emotions to help you understand the direction of your thought.

Any diagnosis of cancer is emotionally devastating and can send us into a tailspin of thoughts and emotions. We battle, fight, win, lose, succumb. We are called warriors and survivors. Our post-treatment is often fraught with depression, dread, and fear.

My quality of life was influenced by a pattern of thinking that reinforced anxiety and heightened adrenaline arousal.
It is physiologically impossible to be happy and sad, relaxed and tense, muscularly flexed and extended at the same time. The opponent-process system is how we maintain homeostasis or balance in the body. When we experience a cluster of positive emotions, the harmony creates a symphony of hormones and neurotransmitters that sing a song of positive vibrational resonance. Our immune system responds by creating a physiological environment to assist healing and gain peace of mind.

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

I began to write down all the words that elicited a sense of desire and well being. Words and phrases like welcome the possibilities, move towards well-being, and health is your birthright began flowing. Each morning I would recite these affirmations before leaving my bed. The constant adrenaline rush was slowly being replaced by an inner calm and a KNOWING when my thoughts needed redirecting. As I practiced and became more mindful, my emotional guidance system started to kick in. People in my life were noticing a shift in my vibration and it became contagious.

Vibrational shifting is usually a gradual process.

When we experience a shift in consciousness, a feedback systems prompts us to keep the stream of well being flowing through us. For most of us, change is gradual; two steps forward, one step back. Abraham describes a scale of over 22 emotions ranging from joy which is similar to a full tank of gas, as fear, grief, and depression indicates to us that we are far away from our Source or well being. Our progressive vibrational change is possible when we recognize the processes given to us by Abraham that help us manifest our desires.

My journey continues as I undergo treatment for a recurrence of ovarian cancer diagnosed 14 years ago. Today I meditate, practice restorative yoga, and use food as my pharmacy. Life is full of love, hope, desire, and passion for educating and mentoring. The medical/health team that treats me, uses positive, uplifting, healing statements. I have trained them that words are powerful. Dr. Drullinsky tells me, “Just keep doing what you are doing, Laura.” Roger that!

No one is ever promised a tomorrow, so today is my focus of attention. Direct your thoughts and life will unfold. Your lessons await you.

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Laura Sposato-Record
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