Despite what well-meaning people have told you, other people don’t exist to make you happy and they’re not responsible for how you feel. Likewise, you’re not in this life to jump through hoops in order to make others happy. You’re here to keep yourself on your own life path in the healthiest way possible, while harming none. This is not to say you accept abuse or remain in a relationship that isn’t supportive and loving. It just means you don’t allow yourself to be tossed about in stormy seas without a sail.
Here are my basic 6 ways to get in the driver’s seat of your emotional life. If you practice them, you’ll find you won’t be as susceptible to being hurt by off-hand or unfiltered remarks from others.
1. Develop good boundaries. If you’re not sure of what you think, believe, or want, you’ll be prone to being tossed around in someone else’s stormy sea. Be mindful of what emotional “stuff” belongs to you and what belongs to someone else.
2. Be yourself. This is mandatory! You’re here on the planet to be you, not a copy of anyone else.
3. Let go of the expectations of others. This means you get to live your own life and dismiss what others think you should or should not be.
4. Allow yourself to be imperfect. Give yourself some space to be real. Offer the same to everyone in your sphere.
5. Nurture the relationships with people you can trust who accept you as you are and who forgive (or ignore) your human foibles.
6. Free your mind from the judgment that things aren’t the way they’re supposed to be. Have no doubt that all is well and in perfect alignment.
Dr. Christina Grant is a holistic healer, intuitive counselor, teacher, and author of The Holistic Approach to Breast Cancer: Every Woman’s Guide to Health, Vitality, & Wellbeing. With a PhD in Human Science, she blends meaningful, intuitive life guidance with energy healing and balancing, both by phone and in person, to help people attain physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wellness. Her book can be found on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle versions, as well as B&N, and other retailers.
To learn more about Dr. Christina Grant or to contact her, please visit her website at http://www.christinagrant.com.