Shut My Mouth! It’s A Dinner Fit For The Dead

Breast Cancer Authority Blog Halloween Blog PostNo! We are not talking about feeding Zombies or Vampires. A Dumb Supper is a serious meal meant for ghosts; your passed-over-loved-ones to be exact. October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, but it is also the month that contains All Hallows’ Eve. As breast cancer survivors, we often have to say “’till we meet again,” to many friends and loved ones in our treatment groups who crossed-over. Unfortunately, it is part of the war on cancer. However, just because they are out of our sight, does not mean they are out of our hearts and minds. Let’s all have dinner together, again.

A traditional Dumb Supper is served on all Hollow’s Eve in your home and on a plate at your table. It often begins at midnight with a prayer of thanksgiving, is shrouded in complete respectful silence, and culminates in a celebration of spirits. The Dumb Supper is an ancient tradition where the dead attend the living for a magical night of communion.

Dinning with the dead is another way of saying, “I love you.”
A Dumb Supper is a bridge between the living and the dead built with love and traversed by loved-ones. It is a centuries old tradition with roots in Europe and branches in America. Breast Cancer Authority BLog - Bridge between living and deadWe understand the concept of death as spirit leaving the body. But, what about the idea of spirits returning for dinner?

We regularly show our love for the deceased by talking to them at their place of burial, taking gifts of flowers, lighting candles for them in our places of worship, and displaying their pictures as a token of our enduring love. On the anniversary of their passing we have moments of silence, song, and food where we live, work, and pray. Talking with the deadSo, is setting a place for the dead at our dinner table going too far?
Those who practice the Dumb Supper on All Hallows’ Eve don’t think so. The Dumb Supper is a reverent event that discourages conversation of any kind.

Dumb Supper literally means quiet meal—mum’s the word–Shhh!
Silence during the meal is of the upmost importance, therefore electronics and motors that beep, buzz or squeak are turned off or unplugged. This includes television sets, refrigerators and freezers. No cell phones, notepads or computers are permitted in the dining area during the dinner. Mum's the word - shhhThese special meals take place on Samhain, October 31st which is Halloween or All Hallows Eve,also known as Halloween and All Saints’ Eve; the eve of the Western Christian feast of All Hallows’ Day.Special meals on HalloweenIt is also a yearly celebration observed in a number of countries. This practice, celebrated worldwide, is one of the largest gatherings at the Festival of the Dead in Salem, Massachusetts.

Why would the veil between the living and the dead be thinner on Halloween day than any other? Because, intention powered by the flame of love is a powerful tool.
Intention powered by the flame of lovePerhaps Collective Intention empowered through prayer and meditation, can literally pull aside the curtain of death so the dead can once again share time and space in the land of the living in the form of a spiritual supper.

Here is how the Dumb Supper works.
The evening opens with a blessing where each attendee is guided through the veil between the worlds to the realms of the dead where no one living may speak.Evening opens with a blessingAfter the family meal is cooked, the table is set with an empty place setting filled with food. In keeping with tradition, the courses of The Dumb Supper are served backwards and the placement of everything down to the silverware is reversed as a means of weaving participants into the shadowy world of spirit. Rather than starting the meal with soup and salad, it begins with desert. It almost begs the question, “Is this an example of the saying, ‘Life is short, so eat desert first.’” Soup and salad are served at the end of the dinner, much like European dinning customs.

The extra setting is for dead family ancestors to come and enjoy a meal with living family members.

Photographs of the deceased are often placed on the table as an invitation; a spirituality and metaphysical first step in manifesting a desired outcome.Celebrate their memory
So, rather than mourning the deceased, let’s celebrate their memory, and see who comes to dinner, because love is something you can take with you to the-other-side. And, under certain circumstances, like an invitation to a Dumb Supper, love may bring family members back from the dead, to break bread with the living.

Kathleen O'Keefe-Kanavos Breast Cancer Authority ContributorABOUT THE AUTHOR: Kathleen O’Keefe Kanavos is a TV/Radio Host/Producer of Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod, International Bestselling & Multi-award winner author of SurvivingCancerland: Intuitive Aspects of Healing, and a 3x Breast Cancer Survivor whose dreams diagnosed her illness. She’s published in medical journals, on Huffington Post, in American Express Open Forum and has been a guest on George Noory’s Coast to Coast AM. Kat believes dreams diagnose your life. “Did you have a déjà- vu or dream-come-true?” Kat travels the country advocating for women’s issues. She taught Special Education and Psychology at USF.

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  1. Awesome idea. Thanks for putting it together in a way we can all practice it easily.


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