Dr. Robin B. Dilley, author of In A Moment’s Notice: A Psychologist’s Journey with Breast Cancer and a licensed psychologist.
Yes, is perhaps the most dynamic three- letter word in the universe. Saying YES to life is what every breast cancer survivor and those around them must do everyday. Breast Cancer can be a wake-up call, screaming to each individual, “there is more to life, get up and live it.” Breast Cancer, in all of its ugliness can be used as a gift or a curse and the only difference between the two is how you choose to view it. Breast cancer has the power to make you a victim, shaming you by telling you awful, horrible lies like, “See you did this to yourself. Or you deserve this.” It can wield you into a pile of pathetic “why-me?” Or you can tame those voices like Pi tamed Richard Parker in the movie The Life of Pi, and you can focus on co-existing with this life changing diagnosis, called breast cancer. If Breast Cancer has ended up on your life boat, how you view it will make a difference to the quality in your days to come. In order to make that quality a positive focus, here is a simple journal exercise that can help you focus on what is it that you want.
Please answer the following questions.
Then rate each question on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being completely true and 1 being completely false.
1.) Do you know that you are the most powerful resource that you have?
2.) Do you know that you are really capable of living your life closer to achieving more of what you want than what you don’t want?
3.) What do you think would have to change to make those two above statements more true than not?
4.) List three things you would like to accomplish as a result to this unexpected and uninvited journey you are taking.
Stop and take a break for a while. Come back to this list in the next hour to twenty-four hours. Circle the one on your list that is the most important to you.
5.) Write it here: “I want to:
6.) By doing the above, my life will be enhanced or changed positively how?
7.) When we change something even for the positive we sometimes have to let go of something else. What will you lose as a result of making this change? What are you afraid you will lose? Sometimes the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change. Is this true for you?
8.) It is important to me to make the change at this time because:(list as many reasons that come to your mind:
9.) What are three steps you need to take to get started accomplishing this important life-changing step?
10.) How are you going to start those above steps?
11.) When are you going to start them?
12.) When will you get there, (set a finish date) creating this important life changing behavior, goal, or accomplishment?
13.) What will you need to stay focused on your journey?
14.) Who will be your support team? We all need a support team regardless of how small or big.
15.) What might get in your way, prevent you or make this accomplishment more difficult than it needs to be?
Dr. Robin B. Dilley, author of In A Moment’s Notice: A Psychologist’s Journey with Breast Cancer is a licensed psychologist in the State of Arizona. Her eclectic practice allows her to cross diagnostic barriers and meet clients in their need assisting them to respond to life in healthy and empowering ways rather than react to life’s circumstances.