Happy New Year


Breast Cancer Authority Blog Wishing U Happy New YearDr. Robin Dilley, Author of In A Moment’s Notice: A Psychologist’s Journey With Breast Cancer and a licensed psychologist.

The NEW YEAR is filled with hype and promises of change. I suppose that is good in many ways because if we didn’t have some day to mark our effort at new beginnings perhaps we would never begin the arduous path of change. Yes, I used the word arduous. Arduous means difficult, trying, taxing and full of effort. But guess what, change is not something that happens without arduous work. Thus, let me switch the focus here for cancer survivors. You already know and are intimately acquainted with the word arduous. Your New Year began with the day of your diagnosis. Everything changed within that moment when the doctor said, “You have cancer.” A myriad of feelings ran through your body, your mind hit the numb switch and a blur of medical terminology flew at you like a foreign language. It felt like the doors blew open and regardless of what time of year you heard those words, the world shed its color and the bleakness of winter swept through a broken barn door. Everything familiar turned unfamiliar and difficult emotions would not be shut-up. But guess what? You are reading this today. Perhaps you are in the throws of difficult treatment, perhaps remission has slipped far away from your grasp, or perhaps you are feeling on top of the world with your foot firmly planted against cancer’s neck and the flag of hope is flying high. Regardless of your state of being, January 1, 2015 is here. You made it. Your arduous work has paid off for now. Arduous work does not necessarily change the outcome but it does change your character as you move through this battle. You are a champion today. You are an Olympian Champion with a gold medal. You suited up and sweat it out, trained and tested the limits of your endurance. No one knows your journey like you do. Know one can stand by the sidelines and cheer you with an adequate sense of what it is like. Hopefully you have cheerleaders. Cheerleaders help when you are on that 22-mile of a 26-mile marathon. The band plays and the cheerleaders’ shout-out, “almost there, keep going.” Hope fills your mind and breath enters your being and you pick up your speed and declare, “almost there.” January 1st, 2015 will be unpredictable and regardless of how arduous you are you will not be able to control the outcome. However, an arduous (hearty and profound) spirit will help you take the next step and then your next step. Yes, some days you may want to give up and if you do, don’t worry. Just allow yourself to give-up for a day or two. Stay in bed if you want. Sleep. Drink green tea and look out your window. Watch a movie or do ABSOLUTELY nothing. Giving up requires energy and effort too. Letting yourself relax into your bed for a few days can give you a renewed sense of self. Once you renew yourself then you will know what your next step is. You will be ready to take it. Be kind, be gentle, and be good to yourself this year. No one can do this journey for you. Those friends that walk along side of you while you are on this journey are often feeling helpless about how to help. Tell them what you need. They cannot read your mind. Helping them, help you is a gift that you give to them. Your journey is something no one else can do for you and as you face your journey eye-ball to eye-ball you come to understand the complexities of a fear blended hope that keeps you placing one foot in front of the other to see what will happen next. Remain curious. Remain open. Remain hopeful. Be encouraged that none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow, so make the best that you can out of today. Tomorrow do the same. One day at a time is how 2015 is meant to be lived. Live it well.
Dr. Robin DilleyDr. Robin B. Dilley, author of In A Moment’s Notice: A Psychologist’s Journey with Breast Cancer is a licensed psychologist in the State of Arizona. Her eclectic practice allows her to cross diagnostic barriers and meet clients in their need assisting them to respond to life in healthy and empowering ways rather than react to life’s circumstances.

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Comments

  1. Wow, Impressive, my dad died of cancer last August. It was so hard on all of the family. I was really hurt in the end as his brain went crazy. Thanks for being the Voice! Jackie. I admire you and hope you stop by me.

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  2. Everything I needed to hear today. Very grateful.

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