I lived a full, but fairly ordinary life. I had a job I loved. I loved the people I worked with, as I worked with friends every day. We worked hard and had a lot of fun too. I had just been married to my long time partner and we were planning on a baby the following year. Life was sailing along nicely or so I thought.
Then the sudden diagnosis of breast cancer at age 38, just six months after we were married, rocked me to the core. Every aspect of my life was thrown in the air. It was such a chaotic time and I felt like I was juggling everything in my life just to keep my head above water and survive.
Endless streams of doctor appointments, decisions that had to be made in such a short space of time—it can be so overwhelming. It’s so difficult to shake the feeling of intense fear; you don’t want to make the wrong decision because your life depends on it, literally! Every day you just battle through to survive.
After the decisions were made and treatment started, I read a lot of books and stories about other women who had survived and that gave me the hope I could survive too. In a way, I felt elevated. It lifted my spirit to know that there was a community of women and men who had faced this disease and survived it.
During and after treatment, I was left to sort out the impact of the surgery and treatment choices. It was a very testing time and I felt ill equipped to deal with it and while hope helped, it didn’t give me the actions I needed to take. I have always been action-oriented. I wanted to know the actions those women took to get them through that period of their life. For me, it was a slow and painful process to work it out for myself.
Then the dust settled and as I reflected, there was so much that I wished I had known when I was first diagnosed, before the decisions where made, but there was such a short space of time to find the information and you don’t know what you don’t know! Perhaps, I may have made different decisions if I had insights from survivors at that point.
In essence, what was missing for me were two things. Firstly, the insights from survivors when they were first diagnosed, before the decisions were made to enable a feeling of control rather than just making decisions from a base of overwhelming fear. Secondly, the actions the survivors took to empower themselves through that period of their life.
Harnessing the insight of this community is so powerful, so we wanted to come together to save other breast cancer and cancer survivors of all types, the pain that we went through. Sharing our insights is one way to save other women and men some of the confusion and enable action, not just hope. This is our gift to the community, to elevate and empower other cancer survivors.
Integrating Mindfulness, Authenticity and Divine Feminine Power Into Your Life, Business and Career After Breast Cancer